Remember when you were little and making a new friend was as easy as simply asking another person if they wanted to be friends? Why can't it be that simple for adults? If you dare try that line on an adult, I can almost guarantee that they will either a) think you're a huge weirdo/creep b) think you are joking, or c) graciously accept your offer but never actually become a friend.
The only place that requesting to be someone's "friend" actually works is in the online world via Facebook or other social networking sites. Even then, you do not usually become real life bffs if your request is accepted. I'm talking about movie nights, sleepovers, 'come over just to cheer you up when you're down' friends.
Why? Is it that adults are too busy with their adult lives now to make time for new friends, or that they are too judgmental about the whole idea of a new friend entering their circle? I am mostly talking about girls here. We are so quick to judge people when we meet them (especially other females), whether we know it or it's subconscious. It's because of that I almost feel like making a new friend or attempting to enter an existing group of friends is just as tough, if not tougher, than entering the dating world.
Most of the friends I have are friends I met through other friends. Now that I live farther away, it is tough to see them, and because of that a few friendships have faded. I don't know anyone in this town besides a few random people, but I have absolutely no idea how to go about creating a brand new circle of friends... and part of me hesitates. I am unsure of myself being able to be a good friend in return, and how much I want to share with someone new. I miss goofy girls' nights, road trips, and just having a friend to laugh with, but at the same time I wonder if that part of my life has simply passed.
If we all had the mentality in the friendship department that we had back when we were children, think about how easy it would be to accept new friends into our lives.
What do you do to make new friends? Would you consider yourself judgmental of potential new bff candidates?
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