One of my biggest pet peeves is when people forget, or neglect to say "Thanks!". That simple acknowledgement is a sign that you are appreciative of someone else. I was brought up to always mind my manners, hold doors open for people, and say thank you when others do the same for me. Every. single. time. It's not a hard concept to grasp, yet some people seem to have the mindset that they don't need to show their appreciation.
We've all had experiences with these types. In a shopping mall after you politely hold a door for someone, or in a grocery store line up when you let the person with the single item go ahead of you. You put yourself out there and do something nice for someone... and a "thank you" usually closes the situation. But what if one never comes? You can't help but feel a little belittled. You wonder, does this person really not give a damn that I just did this super nice thing for them or do they really have no manners?
I recently had a couple of these types of experiences. Only this wasn't as simple as holding a door open. I did actual time consuming work, and when it was all done? Nada. No "thank you", not even an acknowledgement that the work was done until I followed up to make sure everything was ok. Really!?! These are things that I didn't have to do for these people, but I decided to help them out and dedicate my time. The least I would have expected would be to hear a "thanks!".
Not only does this give me an overall bad vibe of someone, but it makes me not even want to do work for them anymore or recommend them to anyone else. Maybe this is kind of extreme, but what's the point of being kind and not receiving any kind of appreciation in the end?
So you see, saying "thank you" to someone really does go a long way. Had these people simply uttered those words, it wouldn't have put me in a bad mood, it wouldn't still be on my mind, and I wouldn't be writing a blog post about it right now.
So smile at someone, tell them you appreciate them, and leave a situation feeling good about yourself for making someone else feel good.
xo Dana
AMEN! I love this post and I totally know how you feel! I LOVE saying Thank You and wish more people did too ;-)
ReplyDeleteWell said girl!! Thank you is so important and appreciated when it is said. Totally agree
ReplyDeleteUgh...I know how you feel
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way!! I recently told a friend I would take some newborn photos for her for free, just doing it for the baby gift. When she arrived at the shoot her whole family hops out of the car. We did family pictures, just parents, just kids, just baby, dad with baby, mom with baby, etc. And no "thank you". It was the same situation where I didn't hear anything back until I followed up. She was really demanding and bossy at the shoot and also after the shoot, asking for the photo release and different pictures edited blah blah blah. Anyway, I totally know how you feel! And thanks for doing this post, it's good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way!! :)
ReplyDeletewell said girl! i share the same pet peeve as you
ReplyDeleteunfortunately, peopel just dont GET IT!
i go out of my way at work sometimes to help people, and because theyre so "high up" they never say thanks.,..they just think "oh its her job, she should just do it!" but a little thanks goes a long way!
i loved this post! :-) I am saying THANK YOU for writing it and THANK YOU for being such an awesome, inspiring person :-)
xoxoxo
I get so annoyed when people don't wave a thank you after I let them in while stuck in traffic. It is so rude!
ReplyDeleteKindness is underrated. Please and Thank you truly important words.
ReplyDeleteBTW, I love you banner thank you cards!
Well, I'd like to thank you for writing this post! Well said! I find there is a lack of general manners these days. Hope you have a good week! :) x
ReplyDelete:(....I'm sorry...I hope you know that I appreciate you mucho!!!! And that from my perspective I am very thankful for your work and help :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree! <3
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. It's frustrating as an artist especially, when you do work for someone and they don't simply acknowledge that they're grateful for the work! Ugh the frustration... but it's good to be overly thankful than not at all! So I always say thanks! THANKS FOR THIS BLOG POST!
ReplyDeleteWell let me say thanks for hosting the giveaway that I got to be a part of last month! I really appreciate it!
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ReplyDeleteI too cannot stand when people don't say thank you! It is so against me to not hear someone say it.
ReplyDeleteThanks for posting this.
thank you. thank you. thank you.
Lindsay
A lack of common courtesy and manners bothers me more than ANYTHING. I am always holding doors for people, letting people in in traffic (in which case, a hand wave will suffice), offering to help people, etc. And when I do not hear 'thank you', I'm just like WTF?? I don't understand it. It's TWO little words & it's nice to hear.. but when you DON'T hear it, it feels pretty horrible.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me that I am behind on my Thank You cards. :X
I'm ALL OVER this post. It just makes me shake my head. Like, come on dude. It's two words. Take the short amount of time to say them.
ReplyDeleteShowing appreciation is so, so, so important. So, THANK YOU for keepin it real!!! :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree! I taught my children to always say thank you. So even when they held the door and no one said thank you... I also taught them to say "YOUR WELCOME!!!!!"
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