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I've been reading a self-help type book lately that is like a mini-program to help deal with fears, anxieties and stress. Part of it talks about stresses of daily life and how to cope with things. First of all, I don't consider myself a stressed out person, and I feel like the only times I really do get stressed out is when I have WAY too much to do and just can't handle it all. I know that pretty much sounds like my everyday life, but I promise I don't really get stressed out about doing too much... Maybe all of these years of doing a lot of things has just made me adapt to stressful situations?
Anyways, one part of this chapter that really stood out to me was about how so many people use the type of thought process that makes them think they HAVE to do things, or SHOULD do things. For example, you're driving to work and realize you might be late. You immediately think "I HAVE to be on time! I cannot be late today!" I'm sure we've all thought something along those lines before. The idea they suggest though is that you change the HAVE TO's and SHOULD's with choices. So instead, think "I would like to be on time today. If I am late, I'll just explain the traffic situation to my boss." Or, "I would prefer it if I were on time today." Just thinking like this (even reading that sentence) instantly calms you, doesn't it?
Everything we do in life is a choice. You don't have to do anything. If you start thinking in terms of making choices, things start to become clearer and less stressful. Just a little something I've been trying lately and thought I would share! How do you deal with stressful situations?