I’m sharing how I live on purpose in support of my friend Dr. Danielle Dowling and her new book The Soul Sessions, a 5-week guide to crafting greater joy and making big things happen. Get a wee, free sample here!
How do you let go of the chase for perfection?
If you compare yourself to others, I think that striving for perfection, or what you deem to be the “right” way to do something, becomes intensified. It’s easy to get wrapped up in watching what other people are doing and try to mimic something you believe they do perfectly. If you live like that, you will constantly be in the chase for perfection. Knowing that you are unique and can craft your own life and methods, instead of following a crowd, means that you are perfect in your own way and don’t need to impress or chase the idea of being “perfect”.
How do you pinpoint what isn’t working?
I’m a big fan of the “throw it at the wall and see if it sticks” method. I think that the best way to see if something is working (or not working) is to put it out there and give it a shot. You’ll never know otherwise. If something I have done doesn’t seem to be taking off or working as planned, that’s when I know that it’s either time to toss the idea or re-work it and try again.
How do find the courage to jump into a new adventure?
I don’t usually just jump into something without doing a little research first. I like to make sure I have the knowledge to dive into any new adventure before just jumping in. When I am confident that it is something I still want to do after learning the basics, I just go for it. I’m a very firm believer that I will never know unless I try, so I think that is where the courage comes from.
How do you not get caught up in “doing it all?”
I am guilty of trying to do too many things at once, but as I said, I’m also a “see if it sticks” type girl. Whatever is not working usually gets tossed so I can focus on the things that actually are working, which may just be 2 or 3 things. It’s tough to not want to do everything, because I find joy in that, but sometimes it helps to take a step back every now and then and reevaluate the things that make you the most happy vs. the things that don’t and remember to stick with the good ones. There is no need for stress.
What are some things you’ve said ‘no’ to so you can focus on what’s most important to you? What are you currently saying ‘no’ to?
For about 10 years all I did was custom design work for clients. It was my entire business and I enjoyed it, however I had different plans for myself. I was constantly busy working, and after a while it started to drain me. I wanted to do other things (a lot of other things! Like this blog for one!) and turn my business into more of a passive income type business. I started saying “no” to custom work and working with clients so I could focus on my own plans. It was tough, and perhaps some people didn’t quite understand, but I just couldn’t see myself or my business growing if I continued on that way.
How do you know when you’ve “arrived” or finally “made it happen?”
When I can sit back and feel confident that everything worked out the way it was supposed to, that is when I know that something was a success. I think it’s a feeling more than anything. Feeling completely content with yourself and just knowing.
Danielle’s book Soul Sessions will help you figure out what it is that you do best and how to build confidence in yourself, business, and relationships. It is a 5 week course that just may change your life. She used these methods to change her own life and packaged them up into a pretty little book that will absolutely help you succeed. You can also check out some of the advice posts she’s written for Wonder Forest right here.